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What if you could embark on a rollercoaster ride of mind-boggling discussions, delve into the complexities of relationships, and still emerge from it with a smile on your face? That's exactly what we promise in this episode of Mind Buzz! In our first segment, we candidly share the trials and triumphs of reviving our YouTube show "On Our Guey!". Living together has its own set of challenges, and finding time to record is one of them. Just imagine us brainstorming over breakfast or in the middle of a Netflix binge!
Ever pondered the lifespan of your undies or the acceptable frequency of skipping personal hygiene routines? Well, today is your lucky day, as we dive into these and many more hilarious life topics. We also spotlight some exciting music events, discuss our impending open mic night, and talk about the tradition of (not so pretty but oh so comfy) Christmas sweaters. Life isn't just fun and games though, we also navigate through the realities and hardships of cross-cultural relationships, drawing lessons from the popular 90-day fiancé reality show.
As we delve deeper, we get real about emotional support roles in marriage. We confront the challenges of language barriers, cultural differences, and discuss the complexities of surrogacy. This episode isn't all serious though; we lighten things up with a chat about motherhood, body changes, and the pro-choice and pro-life debate. We even explore the symbolism of Christmas lights - because who doesn't love a good festive discussion? So, buckle up for this joy ride through the bylanes of our minds and don't forget to subscribe to keep up with our journey!
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"King without a Throne" is performed by Bad Hombres
Bringing Back the YouTube Show
Speaker 1And five , four , three , two , let's go . What is up mind ? Buzz Juniverse , how the hell am I supposed to live my life ? I Don't know the rest of the words to that song Because we never let it play . What ? What is the ? What is the words to that ?
Speaker 2I don't know . I feel like it's like strange and strange and hopeless .
Speaker 1What's up ? Ladies and gentlemen , welcome back to another episode of the mind buzz podcast . I am your host , gil Billy smells like Amber , what Okay ? And then we got amber in the back working threes , fours and sevens .
Speaker 2Hey .
Speaker 1What's going on ? How are you ?
Speaker 2I'm good .
Speaker 1Yeah , what are you gonna bring back your show that you're doing when ?
Speaker 2you're gonna bring that ?
Speaker 1back .
Speaker 2We're talking about what showed did . Were they doing ?
Speaker 1Your YouTube show , yeah .
Speaker 2I'm confused .
Speaker 1On our way that's not mine . That was yours . Hours Was your show . You're the main , you're the host of it .
Speaker 2No , I wasn't yeah , you every time you said I was the host . You take the lead , but it's not my show . That's okay . I'm okay with that .
Speaker 1That's fine . Well , it's not fine Because I want it back .
Speaker 2Well , come on them .
Speaker 1You got see , mother .
Speaker 2We're just not in the car , enough anymore .
Speaker 1You know what you're right . You're 100% right . I feel like when we were doing that , we had a lot of More driving time together when we were doing that , we weren't living together .
Speaker 2Let's be real . Let's be real . I Love me .
Speaker 1Cuz , I don't want to be real keep it 100 .
Speaker 2We have shit to talk about now . We're just . We talk all day .
Speaker 1No , we can still do it .
Speaker 2No , of course absolutely .
Speaker 1Okay , you want I'm , since we're 100 right now .
Speaker 2I'm scared to be 100 .
Speaker 1Since we're 100 . I Thought about it and it's very dangerous .
Speaker 2You just thought about know that ? Yeah , of course it was really dangerous . I've been scared since day one really yes .
Speaker 1I wasn't scared until I really thought about one day . I really thought about it and I Could .
Speaker 2We that's why I told you to get the little mics that attached to us . Oh , wouldn't be holding anything .
Speaker 1Yeah , but it looks cool I .
Speaker 2Don't know .
Speaker 1I like it . It looks really cool , and if you guys don't know what we're talking about , we're talking about on our way on our YouTube channel Go watch it . But before you go watch you you need to subscribe , was that ? Yeah , I know you got to subscribe to it , um all right , hello , yeah , all right . No , you , you put me down .
Speaker 3Are you ?
Speaker 2doing . You're good , you
Discussion on Microphone and Underwear Usage
Speaker 2sound good .
Speaker 1No on the mics , you put them down no no , pump my volume up . I can't hear anything . Yeah , there we go .
Speaker 2Hello , better hear me . Oh , then yours was low . Yeah , mine is like Bust in my eardrums out .
Speaker 1Don't mess with the , the microphone Sound Geez you cheese , don't start no , the headphone volume you put down , not the microphones .
Speaker 2No , I didn't touch the mic volume . I touched the headphone volume because it's really loud in my ears . I know what I'm doing . Jays Louise , you don't even know , you can't even see .
Speaker 1I am covered you can't even see .
Speaker 2I am covered behind . You broke your screens and he thinks he can see what I'm doing you broke your Things that you put in your eyes .
Speaker 1I forgot what they're called right now . I .
Speaker 2Broke those because I've been wearing them for six months .
Speaker 1That's why can we look you're not supposed to be okay . Are you allowed to wear contacts more than that long ?
Speaker 2yeah , if you take care of them and you clean them and everything , yeah but how long are you supposed to have them ? I don't know . Depends on what you get . You can get dailies that you throw away every day . You can get monthly ones but , you can get some that are three months .
Speaker 1But the ones you have clearly weren't six months or three months and I stretched them .
Speaker 2I'm good . I'm good . They ripped and it was time for new ones . It's all right . I guess I'm talking about your calzone is .
Speaker 1Talk about things that are being reused .
Speaker 2Let's talk about things .
Speaker 1Used .
Speaker 2I .
Speaker 1Got lifetime warranty on them . Babies , if the elastic don't rip , we must have quit . Remember that you don't quit and you don't stop until you drop those . How long are you supposed to have underwear , for there's no written rule Absolutely one day . Okay , but that's wearing them . No , that's wearing them . We're talking about two different things , right now I'm not wearing them .
Speaker 2You've been wearing them for way too long . That was my comeback . Was you wearing them ?
Speaker 1We're talking about this .
Speaker 2No , you can keep them , I mean Until they rip , or whatever your , your expectancy is for it . Oh , no we should do a poll . How long do people , how long do you wait until you buy new underwear ? Let us know , please . I'd like to know . Yeah why can't I hear myself ?
Speaker 1Oh , cuz I was . I have a monitor right here . No , but we're talking about two different things . You're , I'm ? No , you're talking about . Yeah , how many days do you wear clean underwear ? No , I'm saying you're talking about . You're talking about two separate things .
Speaker 2I know , I know . And then , once you really said what you were talking about , then I moved over to what you're talking about and that's I asked our listeners how long until you buy new underwear , like , how long do you keep them in your drawer ? That's what you were talking about , right , right , yeah , elastic , everything .
Speaker 1Yeah , I'm talking about that . Okay , that's totally different , because I change mine every day . Under certain occasions , there's certain circumstances when you're you don't need to change your underwear every day .
Speaker 2What is ?
Speaker 1that and you skip a couple days on brushing your teeth . There's a lot of different things that you can do , that other people do them separately , okay , one of which is that . But before we get into that debate , I believe we have a Underwear war underwear war ? No , we have a migratory weekly . For this evening , hit the music .
Speaker 2All right ready .
Speaker 1Yeah , that's why I said that's an interesting song choice . I don't know , I chose Okay well , that's from our homies over there , at my great though . This is 3lh 3lh with their song psycho . So what do we got going on in the my great the world and bird ?
Speaker 2So la rose a noir will be celebrating their album release show this Saturday , again in Chicago . So la rose a noir is in Chicago . So for any of our listeners , if you're in Chicago or you're gonna be in the Chicago area this weekend , this Saturday , check it out . And if you are not in the area , you can also check out the album are a yano on Spotify . Also , 3lh will be performing this Friday at la santa in Santa Anna . So yeah , cool . That's all I got that's all you got .
Speaker 1All right , cool , my great the weekly , but also we have mind buzz weekly . Now that was lame . No , you keep it . Keep it going because we got this week , december 14th , at or chat area in the city of Paramount , we have our open mic night Music , poetry , comedy . I . The signups are still open . I mean , we still have a couple of spots left . There should be a good show . We got a good list of Open mic poetry readers . We got some music . We got an improv Group coming in doing their improv stuff , coming up with Jokes and comedy right in front of our faces , and then we got some Comedians coming up . So , yeah , this is gonna be the last one of the year . We're gonna have an ugly sweater contest . So come out with your ugliest sweater . How did that tradition start ? If we're talking about traditions , ugly sweaters , is it just the general consensus of ? I don't even know if I use that word correctly , but is it ? Is it because Christmas sweaters Just started becoming uglier and uglier over the years ?
Speaker 2Maybe I think I was more like tacky , like the . Maybe they should have called it like tacky sweaters , cuz I feel like that's what it comes down to , but I don't know , I don't know , I don't know where it came from . We shall , oh , let's see . But um , yeah , are you wearing a ugly sweater ?
Speaker 1Not right now , I , but on Thursday . Yeah Well , it's not really an ugly sweater , it's pretty cute . What about let's bring back a cute sweater season ? How about that one ?
Speaker 2That I didn't even write anything . But where did the tradition come from ? Ha , ha , ha , ha , ha ha .
Speaker 1Oh my God , where did the ugly sweater tradition come from ? Yeah , you're right , it probably just developed over years of the trendiness of Christmas sweaters being ugly .
Speaker 2Yeah , like tacky , you know , like your aunt would come over or I'm thinking like I don't know , not Mexican , but maybe white people . Like you know , your aunt came with her like reindeer sweater or something , and then I was like , oh , look at my aunt always wearing something ugly and then it came from there .
Speaker 1Originally called the Jingle Bell sweaters . These tacky garments were originally perceived to be fashionable at its origin . According to Time Wright , allison Berry , the pioneer of this trend , indicated to be Bill Cosby , as he constantly wore designed sweaters on this hugely popular TV program , the Cosby Show . So he set this trend . I guess , Wow , this trend is not aging well , is it , ladies and gentlemen ?
Speaker 2Okay , there you go , there you go .
Speaker 1It started with Bill Cosby and he's just sending setting trends left and right .
Speaker 2Digging in my , but there you go .
Speaker 1Perfect for parties too . He set a lot of trends for Christmas parties Wearing an ugly sweater , and then Let me get you a drink . Well , first of all , an ugly Christmas sweater , by definition , is any sweater with a Christmas theme that is considered in bad taste , tacky or gaudy . The more embellishments or the better theme , depending on who you ask , the better . There we go .
Speaker 2The more better .
Speaker 1Is that what I said ?
Speaker 2No , I'm just saying and tell me I think it's better , I think it's more better .
Speaker 1More , better .
Speaker 2Oh , but she said it's more bigger .
Speaker 1You heard that on me too .
Speaker 2Well , first of all , yeah , Now remember the girl in the restroom .
Speaker 1Oh yeah .
Speaker 2Oh , they made it more better .
Speaker 1So that's an inside joke between us , but tell us why that is so funny .
Speaker 2Because it's like what do they call it ? Like an oxymoron , right .
Speaker 1More , better , no .
Speaker 2Because you would just say like it's better .
Speaker 1More better is a different term .
Speaker 2No , I'm saying like an oxymoron is like when you say like the same word twice , type of thing .
Speaker 1No and no , that's a different . An oxymoron is if you say two opposing names together .
Speaker 2Let's see what it is .
Speaker 1Like jumbo shrimp , like short tall man . Yeah , how much do you want to bet ?
Speaker 2Oh , I don't want to bet anything .
Speaker 1Oxymoron definition , a figure of speech is in which apparently contradictory terms appear in conjunction Faithful , unfaithful kept him falsely true . Got it See ? Look at how about this Go ? What is select that ? What is an oxymoron in examples ? There we go . Organized chaos , defeating silence . Old news .
Speaker 2I like that organized chaos .
Speaker 1Jumbo shrimp yeah .
Speaker 2Remember that organized chaos .
Speaker 1Organized shrimp .
Speaker 2Well , anyways , she just it's just me being me and she was in the restroom and I guess they had remodeled the restroom and she looked at me and she's like , oh , they made it more better and I thought it was funny , I'm just being a jerk . So now we say it's more better .
Speaker 1Did you tell her why ?
Speaker 2Did I tell it ? And no we didn't ?
Speaker 1You laughed in her face . No , oh . What the hell . It sounded like the story you said . You left it in her face .
Speaker 2I said it .
Speaker 1Laughed it in her .
Speaker 2I know were you hurt . Was it you with the wig ? Hey is Louise .
Speaker 1What kind of Louise now ?
Speaker 2I'm down for that .
Speaker 1Okay , so I posted this thing on the Instagram , on the interwebs , on the interwebs about us trying the De La Rosa Mazapan .
Speaker 1De La Rosa yeah , and let's see , I'm not sure , I'm not sure , I'm not sure , I'm not sure , I'm not sure , let's see , let me pull it up . There we go . Mindycakes86 says it's so good . And then I was like , oh , we'll find out in a bit . And she was like we went through three jars I bought back fast , or brought back fast , so we only got one jar . This thing is pretty popular or something . I mean , how long ago did it come out ? Like a few weeks ago .
Speaker 2No , it's been out in Mexico for longer , it's just we just found out about it .
Speaker 1Interesting , and Me Too posted this , and then it went crazier , so I asked my cousin to get me one .
Speaker 2When I seen it on the Me Too post and she already had to that the whole craze was ongoing in Mexico and she was like it's really hard to find them right now . She said so good luck , but she found them . And she found two of them . She gave one to me and one to my sister .
Speaker 1Then I asked her well , what did you eat it with ? And she was like a spoon . Oh my gosh .
Speaker 2Taste it with a spoon .
Speaker 1With a spoon first ? Yeah , because I brought bread to the party .
Speaker 2No , because the bread's going to mute it a little , like it's going to bring it down . Taste it authentically .
Speaker 1Okay , I can do this for you .
Speaker 2I opened it already and Amber already opened it . I only taste a little bit . Mix it , because it's kind of Smells really good .
Speaker 1It smells like mazapán . Is it supposed to be like that ?
Speaker 2It's oily because it's peanut butter .
Speaker 1Oh , so it's peanut butter .
Speaker 2Wow , mazapán spread , I guess .
Speaker 1De la rosa Mazapán Un tabl .
Speaker 2Un tabl .
Speaker 1Un tabl con trocitos de cajote . What's that ?
Speaker 2It's just spreadable with pieces of peanuts .
Speaker 1Un tabl means spreadable . Un tabl .
Speaker 2What I mean . Mazapán is just peanut . It's a peanut candy .
Speaker 1Oh , it's just peanut .
Speaker 2Wow , that's big . Let's go spread it out . My worst nightmare . It's really sweet . I already tasted it earlier and I literally got like a pinky , pinky taste .
Speaker 1That's good .
Speaker 2Whoa .
Speaker 1That's really good , I like it .
Speaker 2It's good .
Speaker 1It's good .
Speaker 2Do you think you could eat it ?
Speaker 1with bread . We're about to find out Okay , oh , that's good , that's really good . No , I think I'm gonna pass on the bread . I'm not that hungry .
Speaker 2All right .
Speaker 1But I think so .
Speaker 2It tastes like peanut butter .
Speaker 1Yeah , it's just like regular peanut butter .
Speaker 2I'll take one .
Speaker 1You want a sandwich ? Yeah , but then I'm gonna be like this is what our podcast has come to . We've come to eating sandwiches on the show now , right , but we don't have a guest today , so we could do whatever we want . We could do whatever we want and we can say whatever we want . No , I'm just kidding . We're coming to you live for the break of 90-day fiancé ladies and gentlemen , the other way around , the other way around .
Speaker 1This is why we love you guys so much . We just love you guys . We committed ourselves to 9.30 . We got home around 8.30 . That gave us about an hour . When I said , oh , just put on 98-day fiancé , I didn't realize that the episode was gonna be like two hours long is it An hour and a half ? Yep , An hour and a half long . If you were to say to somebody if an alien came down .
Speaker 2Give me my sandwich .
Speaker 1Oh , you really wanted a sandwich . Oh , I thought you were really making a sandwich . Oh yeah , I'll make one .
Speaker 2That was for you .
Speaker 1No .
Speaker 2Throw it , just kidding . Throw it , uh-huh . What was your question ?
Speaker 1Okay .
Speaker 2Is our bread good ?
Speaker 1Say , an alien came down while you were watching 90-day fiancé and the alien was outside your door or outside your window watching 90-day fiancé and they liked it and they asked you what is this show about ? How would you explain to them ?
Speaker 2It's about people that marry people from other countries . Well , I'm here . Oh , oh fuck . Sorry , I didn't see the sandwich .
Speaker 1You dropped it .
Speaker 2It fell on the keyboard and it swirled off .
Speaker 1This is why they don't allow sandwiches in studios .
Speaker 2Oh man , I got peanut butter on my keyboard . Sorry the original for the original show . It's called 90-day fiancé .
Speaker 1I don't think eating peanut butter sandwiches on a podcast is very .
Speaker 2People like ASMR .
Speaker 1Okay , three , two , one go .
Speaker 2So the original show it's called 90-day fiancé . Okay .
Speaker 1I'm the alien .
90-Day Fiancé and Cultural Differences Discussion
Speaker 2The basis of that show is people meet people in other countries , they fall in love and then they want to bring their significant other to the United States . So then they Sorry , they get a visa , a K1 visa that they call .
Speaker 1Okay .
Speaker 2So then they bring their significant other from another country . Once their visa gets approved , they come to the United States . Once they're in the United States they have 90 days to get married before they get kicked out . So if they don't marry within 90 days they have to go back to the country . You got it alien . You didn't hear anything . I said .
Speaker 1They have to go back to their country if they don't get married within 90 days .
Speaker 2Yes , so that's where 90-day fiancé started . So it's a reality show and then so people see if they can live with each other within those 90 days , if everything goes well , and then at the end they decide if they want to get married or not . The one that we are watching is a spin-off of that called 90-day fiancé . The other way around .
Speaker 1Okay , so what's the other way around ? What does that mean ?
Speaker 2I'm getting there , okay . So the other way around means that now , instead of the foreigner coming to America like the regular show , the American goes to live with the foreigner in their country . So that's why it's called the other way around . Do you see what I'm saying ?
Speaker 1Mmm Okay .
Speaker 2So the original show was a foreigner coming to live in America , getting married , and then the one we're watching is the other way around . So now it's the Americans going to the foreign country . So that's how we have the people from India , the girl from India , the girl from the Dominican Republic , from Turkey , Mexico what else is there ? Those you had never seen it , huh , Prior to me watching it .
Speaker 1No , this is my first . I'm a first with 90-day fiancé .
Speaker 2That's a great show . It's probably the only reality TV show I watch .
Speaker 1The other way around . I like that concept of people going to other countries . I guess I'm just conflicted with the girl going to India because I get it , I 100% get her predicament . She moves to India , she has to do all these things for their culture , for the country . I get that part , but it's a lot she should have . I don't know , yeah , that's your significant other , but that's just a lot .
Speaker 2It is a lot which she's going through .
Speaker 1And they're like respect India , respect India , the other chick . What did she say ?
Speaker 2But I agree , it's not your country and I think that that's where , oh , this peanut butter stick made my tongue stick .
Speaker 1It's like a dog with peanut butter in the roof of his mouth .
Speaker 2And I think that that's where our I'm not going to say our , but that's where American culture of being self-centered and being very rude comes into play , because this is no longer your country . You have American values , yes , you have American freedom . You have all these things , but when you go to another country that does not value that and does not have that , do not expect people to move mountains for you , because you're that one little American in that whole big old town that thinks that she has all this fucking freedom . And I think that's where my problem is with her . And it's true , and I think it's like you don't even have to be a 90-day fiance person to know that .
Speaker 1You don't need to go to India to experience that .
Speaker 2Like it with you before you went to Japan , when we made that video and you were like , yeah , I'm going to be , and I told you , don't be an arrogant American .
Speaker 1I wasn't that one .
Speaker 2I'm giving an example . Once you got there , I knew you weren't going to be that . But once you got there you see this culture and then you want to kind of like , oh what .
Speaker 1No , Because I guess no , it depends Well , like , what's your point .
Speaker 2My point is that you just have to be respectful anywhere that you go . It's like it's dumb , like why go to another country and think that Because you have all these rights in your country that you demand the same rights in the other country ? It's your decision to be there and to be in this country . That is completely night and day from your own . So now you have to assimilate .
Speaker 1Right , but right and soJeholdably , stop misrepresenting Someone . Have you heard this ? It doesn't even it's . It's not even the her being okay , for instance , which was crazy to me about the cow urine and the bull urine and the lighting of the poop as a candle , like a poop candle .
Speaker 2They're a come on dude .
Speaker 1Yeah , but in her kitchen . Was it her kitchen or was it ? It was a mother in those kitchen oh okay , I Can understand if it was her own kitchen .
Speaker 2That's what I'm saying . Like you go knowing , like no one forced her to marry him right . So you have to be respectful and I agree they have you don't have to be respectful . Obviously , you don't have to be anything . But , in order for her to live the life that she wants to , there has to be some middle ground , there has to be some Compromise . What do you do ? Fight your whole , freaking , entire life Because you think that , oh , people need to be like America . That's , it's not America .
Speaker 1No , I don't care about America , america , america has nothing to do with it .
Speaker 2But what I'm arguing is because she says that . She says oh , I'm a free woman , I'm a free woman , I'm a woman that has my own thoughts and my own values . And da , da , da , da , da , da . And she , she said that she's like oh , in America I'm , I'm , I'm free , like , and that's what I'm saying is like , then go back to fucking America .
Speaker 1I Think she should .
Speaker 2Yeah , if she's not happy , then she's not happy .
Speaker 1I think she should . She should go back to America .
Speaker 2That's it , case closed . That's all I'm saying is that when you go somewhere else , it's not about you .
Speaker 1But why doesn't she what ? So she just she wants to stay .
Speaker 2Yeah , she rather take all the Stuff she hates and she she's just being a bitch at this point because she's so unhappy and I get that . But go home , bring your husband to America .
Speaker 1I would like that . That's what I like , and I want to see him Living in America . That's what I want to see . I don't like him . Which is name ? I don't like him . Pull him up , pull . Pull a picture up of this guy and the wife too . Boris it or nada .
Speaker 2He is in the middle of it and his family hates her . She hates his family and he just wants to love both of them . And this girl's frickin yelling . You're not gonna tell me that that yelling is excessive . That's like psycho stuff .
Speaker 1It's not excessive .
Speaker 2You're just saying this because you always have to go against what I .
Speaker 1Know it's not yelling .
Speaker 2If you were in my in , if I was at your family's house and I got an argument with you and I yelled , like her , you wouldn't be upset . Yes , you'd be upset .
Speaker 1Oh yeah , but she was screaming in her own home , in her own room , in a private conversation with her partner .
Speaker 2All right , let me yell like that .
Speaker 1That's fine .
Speaker 2Don't even get me started , I'm already mad .
Speaker 1Don't be yelling , that's an oxymoron . Pull the clip up where she screams Uh , this maza pun spread . What would you give it ? 10 out of 10? .
Speaker 2No , like a eight .
Speaker 1Oh , you're a tough critic , amber .
Speaker 2Why don't we paint a buddy ? No , so I . I'm not .
Speaker 1I shouldn't be a good If anybody out there Makes cookies , a maza pun cookie , hit me up , because I'm looking for a maza pun cookie right now .
Speaker 2I could make you a maza pun cookie .
Speaker 1Thanks love it , the orchard 38 . I used to have one , but they don't have one anymore . That one was good . The maza pun cookie . Uh , chocolate maza pun . Oh , my god , so delicious .
Marriage and Emotional Support Roles
Speaker 3I'm acting like a wife who can't communicate clearly with your husband . I'm acting like a wife . Right now , you are depressed of your own reason , not because everybody gets depressed , so I don't get any reasons . You don't shout at me . I feel you want to create a drama out of this , then it's okay . Otherwise , you know that how many times I told you If you feel alone , you can go back to us .
Speaker 2Look , no one's yelling . He's not raising his voice .
Speaker 1I put his seat there . Look at me , no See . That's why he didn't have to say that . He didn't have to say that wants to be with me . Help yo , burby . Why do you want to find a new person ?
Speaker 3Why do you say that stuff ? That's that's the main , main thing right now With me . If you feel like a jail , I can't do anything .
Speaker 2Yes , you can no , I can't .
Speaker 3I can't support me how you know me to support . Should I left my job ? Should I left my family ? I'm asking you to listen to me . How many times I would listen . Listen , listening to you , that means I am you have to listen to me for the rest of your life .
Speaker 3That's what marriage is . So what's your solution ? Going back to us , okay , with that , I'm telling you that I'm depressed and you don't care what you else will expect from me . Maybe give me a f***ing hug and say I'm sorry , you're f***ing depressed . I'm not doing that . I know ? See , that's why that was messed up From somebody who made vows to love me till death do us part , for better or worse , and this person .
Speaker 1I am not doing . That Is that the bargain .
Speaker 3Okay , is this a duty of the husband ? Only to do the good thing ? Yes , it is duty of the husband . What's ? The duty of the wife . What's the duty of the wife ? Just yelling on me and telling me what to ?
Speaker 1do ?
Speaker 3You told me that the duty was to make sure everything in the house is running together . Okay , I'm a husband , I'm earning . You keep asking me to give you emotional support . What about me ? What about my emotional sentiments ? Who gonna give me support ? Nobody .
Speaker 1You're not telling me what to do . No , she went through how many , how many times that she had to do the Everything for the wedding that was . That was sentimental to him , right ? Big whoop one day . It wasn't one day , it was over a course of a couple days for the wedding . And it's not just one day , because now she has to do all these rituals for the rest of her life living in India , so she has to . She has to do that every day , just for the Sentimental benefit Of her new husband and her new husband's family . That's what I'm saying . Is that valid ? Yeah , okay , continue . I am not doing that . I am at my wit's end here .
Speaker 3And I can't do this anymore and I've told you over and , over and over again , but I think you think that I'm joking . You have all right to separate with me also , I don't want to separate from you . I don't want to separate from you . I don't want to separate from you Because I'm a . No , I said I don't . You said you don't want to separate from me . You said you don't want to separate from me . Ahhhhhhhhh .
Speaker 2That's just childish . It's very childish .
Speaker 1I mean , what other options does she have besides not screaming ? She didn't have any other options .
Speaker 2You don't yell you can throw something . You don't have to get violent .
Speaker 1I bet if there was no cameras and no microphones she probably would have hit him .
Speaker 2She looks like a hitter .
Speaker 1She looks like a hitter . Yeah , I am not doing that . That was my step , though you don't think that was my step when she said what he said .
Speaker 2I don't think he meant it . I think there's an NCM . That's also something that I've seen . On these shows there's language barriers . What was that one couple that he's like she's a bitch Sarpur , when he said what the sister , he called the girl but he meant to say like , like she's like , like good , like she's a bitch , like he thought bitch was like Empowering and the sister's like what did you ? Call her . You remember that part .
Speaker 1I remember her calling the B word .
Speaker 2Yeah , the B word . Oh , my god .
Speaker 1I am not saying that . No , that was my step dude . I don't know . I guess there's a different part , but I don't know . I'm just trying to put myself in her Position of being so far away from her family .
Speaker 2That's everybody on the show and it's the only one that you're like . She's the worst one .
Speaker 1Because if I was on the show I'd probably be the worst one .
Speaker 2You're not even on the show , and you're the worst one , so I don't know what you're talking about . You ain't even got to be on 90 day fiat . I don't know .
Speaker 1Let's create a new show that's called 90 day Move in Person 90 day move in person . What would the latino version of 90 day fiancé be called ?
Speaker 2Fiancé 90 days .
Speaker 1Or yo tengo papeles . That would be it For 90 days , but there's a mexican one , right , isn't the two homies ?
Speaker 2Oh yeah , armando .
Speaker 1Archmando . I didn't get the part where when they were saying when he was talking about the woman and the person that they met For the surrogacy Right . So it's these two gay men in Mexico and they want to have a baby . They went to the Surrogacy Surrogacy Place and , um , they paid how much ? $75,000 ? $76,000 for this procedure Everything . Does that include the birth too ? No , no , so it's just the mixing of the sperm and injection of the eggs , and I mean injection of the and then I guess , to pay the surrogate .
Speaker 2Surrogates get paid like $30,000 .
Speaker 1Yeah , I know One of my friends , ex-wives . She did that twice in her lifetime Dang yeah , I think that I can't remember how much , but it was a lot of money . That's cool . Yeah , it was more than like 10 grand .
Speaker 2It has to be more than 10 grand . 10 grand is like under the table shit .
Speaker 1Under the table stuff . What is going on with my mic ?
Speaker 2Yeah , but they I don't know if she I don't think she scammed them they probably don't pay you until it's done , or they pay you like once you're like actually like pregnant is when they start paying you . So , like that girl that didn't show up , I don't think she was paid .
Speaker 1Oh .
Speaker 2So she didn't steal anything , she just left them hopeful .
Speaker 1She was like yeah , I'm good .
Speaker 2That must be hard to like . Give birth or not ? Well , yeah , give birth , have a baby inside you , and then you just like here you go .
Speaker 1Well , yeah , because you're spending . That's a part of your body right Like , I'm pretty sure , women that have pregnancies . They have a weird connection right with the child , even though Okay , motherhood is so weird .
Speaker 2God , he's such a man .
Speaker 1No , it's not , it is weird . Motherhood is a weird concept . Say an alien . Okay , hold on .
Speaker 1Oh my god Say . An alien parks his UFO on your lawn as you're watching 90 Day Fiance saying he asks you like where did you come from ? And you told him I came from my mother . And the alien says , okay , can you describe to me this mother ? What would you say ? Motherhood , right , yeah , but how would you describe mother ? It's a crazy , weird concept . You don't know where it comes from . Where does it come from ? Is it in our DNA ? Is motherhood in our DNA ?
Motherhood, Body Changes, Christmas Lights
Speaker 2I don't know , I guess like motherly instincts , yeah , I think your body already .
Speaker 1I mean but there's some women that don't feel that .
Speaker 2Yeah , I get that , but I'm sure that if you did , whether you feel it or not , I think , biologically , once it's there , once it's in front of you , like you don't have to love it , but you have instincts , and then your body starts changing , your hormones start changing Physologically , like things happen to prepare you to be a mother , like that's what's crazy to me , that's what people don't understand how much women's body changes . People don't understand that .
Speaker 1They understand .
Speaker 2No , they don't .
Speaker 1No , no , why . Why don't you think that they understand ?
Speaker 2Because then people would have more respect for women . There's no respect .
Speaker 1You think this whole thing is just a Rodney Dangerfield bit that women don't get respect ?
Speaker 2Yes .
Speaker 1That it .
Speaker 2I do . I can only speak from my experiences .
Speaker 1But we're talking about motherhood . That's totally different .
Speaker 2Biologically , I think motherhood is within women . Not all women , though you don't have to be motherly , you don't have to love , you don't have to have love and affection . Those are two different things .
Speaker 1But you don't also have to be a mother to love .
Speaker 2No , that's not what I'm saying . What I'm saying is instinctively , instinctively , a woman . Yes , they're certain things that biologically happen to your body , that also happen in your brain when people give birth , and it makes you have motherly instincts . It doesn't mean that they have to be good . It doesn't mean that you have to be mother of the year . There's horrible mothers out there . But , they have instincts .
Speaker 1At certain ? But does that happen at a certain point when you start to get motherly instincts , or is it right at conception ? I think that's where I don't know . That's where the debate starts , ladies and gentlemen .
Speaker 2I didn't know . There was a debate . You were in a debating mood today , aren't you ?
Speaker 1No , that's where the debate begins between the right and the left . When does a person become a person Between the pro-choice ?
Speaker 2and pro-life . You already went way too far . No , I didn't . Yeah .
Speaker 1No , I'm just stating that fact .
Speaker 2There's a lot of bad questions then .
Speaker 1I'm just stating that fact . What's the DOJ ? Do you know what the DOJ is ? No , I just seen this headline just pop up right now Jesus Arizona over new law making it harder for patriots to vote . What the heck DOJ ? Can you look that up ? What the DOJ means , what does that mean ? Volunteer Corps , doja Cat , what does it mean ? Doj , no , doj , doj . Press conference today .
Speaker 2Department of Justice .
Speaker 1Oh , that's what it is . Why would I click on that one ? That one doesn't make sense . Yeah , of course that would be in there . I don't know . That's where it starts , but that's where it ends . No , I'm saying See you in a minute . Hopefully we're going to put lights up soon . It's going to be awesome .
Speaker 2Next year . See you in January , just kidding , just kidding .
Speaker 1Yeah , what is that News ? Oh , it's . You're on the same thing . Yeah , no , but tomorrow we'll have some lights . Okay , I'm in this very like why do we do things as Americans ? I'm thinking , why do you put up lights ? Like , where did the concept of Christmas lights come from ? Can you look up that ? Where did the concept of lights come from ? We all know why Santa Claus wears red and white . We all know that one . I've been listening to this podcast for three years . There's a lot of things happening on the Christmas .
Speaker 1This tradition can be traced back to Germany in the 17th century , and over the next two centuries it became a widespread practice in Germany and eventually spread to other countries in Eastern Europe . Oh , it's a German thing . Hmm . Oh well , that's a Christmas tree . Oh , christmas lights . Select the history of Christmas lights . Like the link up there , the link that says history of Christmas lights Candle . At beginnings they slight candles inside the house . These candles were initially attached to a tree using wax or pins Whoa , that is very dangerous . So they used to put candles inside the Christmas trees . The original purpose of these candles was to bring illumination to the ornaments adorning the tree . This practice continued until around 1900 , when candle holders gained popularity and started replacing wax and pins as a means to secure the candles to the tree . The purpose , however , remained the same to illuminate and make the beautiful ornaments on the tree even more visible . That is . But why , though ? Just to make them look good .
Speaker 2Just to yeah .
Speaker 1Just to make them look good .
Speaker 2Oh , but didn't you see what I was saying over here ? It said it says the custom goes back to when Christmas trees were decorated with candles , which symbolize Christ being the light of the world . So the light was that Christ was the light of the world .
Speaker 1And the world is the Christmas tree . The Christmas trees were brought by Christians into their homes in early modern Germany . Oh dang . So Christmas trees are a religious thing .
Speaker 2Wow , that's what it sounds like . What's a Christmas light ? Symbolize Jesus .
Speaker 1Christmas comes at a cold , dark time in much of the world , in much of the world , so decorating with lights that brighten things up makes sense , even if you don't think about what they mean . For Christians , the light symbolize Jesus status as the light of the world and the way he came to save people from darkness .
Speaker 2Yeah , so you're just illuminating the dark . That makes sense .
Speaker 1Okay .
Speaker 2So the more Christmas lights you have in the front of your house , the more inflatables you have in front of your house .
Speaker 1The more inflatables that you have in your house . That's the levels of heaven you're going to get into when I go to heaven , when I'm in line in heaven after I choke on Mazapan and bread .
Speaker 2You are not going to heaven .
Speaker 1Once I'm in line , I'm waiting in heaven and there's going to be somebody at the door and he's going to say God's going to be right at the door and look at his list and say you know what , gil , you did not put enough Christmas lights and enough stuffed ornaments in your front lawn . You're not making it . You're not making it in . You didn't put enough .
Speaker 2You didn't make the cut .
Speaker 1You didn't make the cut . You didn't make the cut .
Speaker 2I like seeing Christmas decorations .
Speaker 1And I'm going to be like no , what about the guy in back of me ? I remember seeing his house , specifically , and he bought his stuff on discounted price every year after Christmas . That's messed up , but he still put them up . That wasn't cool . That wasn't cool , god . Anyways , I don't know .
Speaker 2There was no point .
Speaker 1That was a point . The point of that is we need inflatables because I want to get into heaven , got it . That's the point . And the point is they're cheaper after Christmas . Anyways , a lot of things are cheaper after Christmas .
Speaker 2A lot of things are cheaper after all holidays .
Speaker 1Right , I guess you just have to be asked out on one holiday , right ? Just one , and then like the next day over . Like , say , for Halloween example , you don't buy any decorations , you don't buy any costumes . What you usually purchase for Halloween , you should purchase on the next day and then use them for next . So you have to like sacrifice one year you have to sacrifice at least one week one year when we're that makes sense . For that right .
Speaker 2Or you're sacrificing . You buy stuff one year and the next ones are all discounts . You can do that too .
Speaker 1No , but the idea here is to be as thrifty as possible .
Speaker 2Got it .
Speaker 1So what ? You don't celebrate Christmas one year . We don't celebrate Christmas one year , amber . This whole conversation is about not celebrating Christmas this year , got it See ?
Speaker 2or no , nope .
Speaker 1I know this is . This is actually my favorite time of year .
Speaker 2Oh , I would not have known that . But how even depressed every day , on the 11th day of Christmas , go , where was the press ?
Speaker 1Oh , you know what ? I wrote a song years ago . I want to say years ago , I think I was like 11 . No , I was 13 years old . It was the first year after my mom had passed away .
Speaker 1It was a first year having Christmas as a family without her , that was . I wrote a song that was along the lines of that . On the first day of Christmas my father gave to me one . Oh , because I was stuck in Fresno for like three weeks . He must have forgot or something . No , he didn't forget , he didn't have , I think . His truck broke down and then , plus , we didn't have enough money for the bus to bus me back home to LA . So I was stuck in Fresno for weeks and that's how I got the scar on my lip . I went to my cousin's house . Her dog was there and I had my face like on the table and he bit me on the face . So a lot of things happened within those three weeks and I wrote a little Christmas song because it was like leading up to Christmas and I had to stay there and it was just it was one of the real , of you reciting the Christmas song .
Speaker 1And it was like one of the first times that I blacked out on alcohol .
Speaker 2Oh , my God .
Speaker 1Yeah , how old are you ? 13 . Jesus , yeah , I had a . I was drinking , a monster and a cousin of mine I won't say , I won't name any names , but a cousin , when she was she was giving me vodka shots and I kept on , I was drinking them , like I tasted it and I was like , oh , this tastes like crap . And maybe if I , if I mix it , you know , be cool with with the monster and I mixed it and I put in like a big can you remember those BFG ? Those big ass cans are BA .
Speaker 2No .
Speaker 1BACs . Yeah , they're called big ass cans and they're huge . They're like huge monster cans and I was putting the vodka in there . Yeah , it was . It was gross . I'm pretty sure that they knew that I was drunk . I was throwing up all over the living room . I think we we had rice with . That's the only thing that we had , because we got to it was a family party and we got there late and I think that's all they had was just like Mexican rice to eat and that's all I ate . And I was trying to sober up and ate a whole bunch of rice and at the time I was still drinking the vodka and monster . And one thing went to another and I just I remember like taking shots and after that I just remember like being on all fours in the living room and just blowing chunks of rice and it was like really thick because of the amount of rice that I ate , and then I had to like scoop it up and pick it up and it was just , yeah , it was bad , it was bad , but that was .
Speaker 2I am officially grossed out right now .
Speaker 1Are you really ?
Speaker 2Yeah , what we ate . Rice earlier Grossed me out .
Speaker 1I ate the rice . I cleaned it up , I scooped it back .
Speaker 2That never made me . And then I think another one of your stories .
Speaker 1And I was crawling . I was crawling around , they were laughing . They probably knew they had to know .
Speaker 2Yeah , no shit .
Speaker 1Anyways , we went and I'm going back to my sister's house and then I remember I was hungover for like three days . It was the worst feeling I've ever felt in my entire life . Imagine that I've . It was a lot too Like it was . My head felt like it was going to explode .
Speaker 2It was wild .
Speaker 1It was . I was crying because I was like this is horrible , this is the worst thing that could possibly happen .
Speaker 2That was like child abuse . That sucks , I'm sorry .
Speaker 1That was crazy . That was a good one .
Speaker 2No , I'm thinking no , but it's probably too much for you .
Speaker 1What .
Speaker 2Nothing .
Speaker 1What's too much ?
Speaker 2The cat story .
Speaker 1The cat story . Oh , what's the cat story ?
Speaker 2The tub . No , we can leave that for the next time .
Speaker 1One story per episode on the Gilbilly Deluxe show . That's what it's called . No .
Speaker 2Yeah , the Gilbilly Deluxe shows every day 24 seven . No , it's not . It's like the Truman show , it turns out . I remember that , I remember that I remember that . I remember that it turns out .
Speaker 1I want . You have no idea . Like all the things that we put ourselves at least me , all the predicaments , I feel like this would be a good reality TV show . I don't know .
Speaker 2Yeah , I guess you're right .
Speaker 1It would be hilarious . I mean , take , for instance , today where you're we went to your little nephew show and it was fine and and I was paying attention and you're saying like pay attention or something . You're like it's not , it's not a , it's not the whatever , it's not the gil show . Right now we're watching Leo oh yeah . It's just funny because it seems like Like that would be in a Larry David type of bit in a curb your enthusiasm or something I don't know .
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Speaker 2Yeah , I get it , I don't know .
Speaker 1No , there there needs to be more contrast .
Speaker 2There has to be more . I don't think our life was that exciting , for like a curb your enthusiasm .
Speaker 1I think so , as long as you , and you in the contrast . No , yeah , there is , there's something there . All right , we got a workshop in . What do we got ? Fbi chief in India following explosives and US assassination plot indictment ?
Speaker 2Oh my , God Good night , everybody Good night .
Speaker 1But we're not going to talk about that . Hit the music .
Speaker 2I'm sorry you had to hear us for an hour .
Speaker 1Hear the music . That was the wrong one .
Speaker 2What the heck was that ? What a jerk . This is the last time I'm doing this show . No , it's not , I'm writing a review on this show .
Speaker 1No , it's not , because we're coming back tomorrow , hopefully with an interview for you guys Should be good one . This Thursday at or chat to the in the city of Paramount , we will have the open mic night hosted by me and Amber . Are you going to host this one this time , or are you going to hang out ? Why are you looking at me ? Because you want to do the least amount as possible .
Speaker 2No , don't blame it on me . Last time I said I was here with you , I said no , go sit with your mom , enjoy it .
Speaker 1How the hell am I supposed to run a podcast without Amber ? You're omitting what sounds like red dot , but it's something else . No , don't worry about it . Just kidding , I'm going to have the open mic at the city of Paramount , in the city of Paramount . With the open mic , it can be a fun time . I got a show coming up on the 21st and the 28th .
Speaker 2That's my sister's birthday .
Speaker 1Oh , it is no December . December 28th this month , not next month . I know it's your sister's birthday .
Speaker 2This is a really long song when we don't have a gift .
Speaker 1So for the next couple of weeks , on Thursday I got some shows . Watch it the Mime Bus oh yeah , yeah .